Are You a Perfectionist Fuss Budget?

I have one note before I get started. My website isn't functioning right now, and I don't know why. What a lovely problem for a Perfectionist! Anyway, . . .

I've got two 'serious' blogs I'm writing right now. To tell you the truth, I hate writing. It's laborious, and seriously procrastination-inducing. Why? Primarily because I'm a perfectionist about it. Zillions of experts recommend that I just write whatever is waiting to be communicated, then go back and fix it later. Well, I can't get myself to do that. I try to get it perfect straight 'out of the pen'. But things don't work that way, at least not in my writing world. I labor to get it perfect as I write. THEN I go back and edit, and edit . . . and edit. It's nutso. This is the primary reason why my supposedly monthly blog is so NOT monthly. But then you get enough mail already, huh.

I'm a perfectionist about everything. This used to, and sometimes still does cause me a lot of grief. Now that I understand about Human Design, at least it makes sense to me. The Conscious Sun on each person's chart is an aspect of themselves that they experience in all areas of life. It is likely that they experience both the positive and the not-so-positive aspects of this energy. In doing Human Design readings for people, I continue to be amazed at how absolutely consistently this is true. (If you want to read my series of posts about Human Design, they start in November 2012.)

On my Human Design chart, the Gate 26 is the Conscious Sun. This is the Gate of Truth and Integrity . . . or the absence of Truth and Integrity. Can you see how Perfectionism is right there leading the way from the top of my chart! I obsessively make more truth and integrity happen all around me. Far too frequently I see lack of what I perceive to be perfection out there, and I attempt to make my environment (including other people) conform to my standards. Of course, my standards of perfection aren't always 'right' or the 'best' way. Just MY way. Kind of unreasonable, huh. At least I recognize this now, . . . well uh, most of the time. I always appreciate my husband for putting up with me! He's got an angel's patience. And for the most part, I've got him well trained.

It gets even better. Perfectionism shows up in multiple ways on my chart. Most people have a theme that runs consistently through their Human Design chart. Guess what mine is. You've got it. If I were inclined to seek diagnoses from doctors, I might well have acquired a diagnostic label of borderline obsessive compulsive. Fortunately, I have successfully bypassed 'medical' treatment through pharmaceuticals in favor of pursuing health through natural means like lifestyle and diet.

Back to struggles with writing. There is an exception to the rule. When I'm actually inspired to write, it just comes out, practically by itself, unbidden. My only role in this manifestation of finished prose is providing the physical vehicle that types the keys and pushes the Publish button. That's called 'authorship'? I imagine this is how some authors experience writing. For me, it's a rarity.

However, today is an inspired writing day. My two serious postings are temporarily on hold. But then I was already seriously practicing my procrastination skills.

Perfectionist Fuss Budget
As a Perfectionist, I frequently have comments, suggestions, etc. that I want to offer to other people. (Dear Reader and Perfectionist colleague, can you relate to this??) Human Design taught me that when giving feedback, suggestions, or advice, it is ALWAYS a good idea to first ask the person if they want feedback. Then be gracefully accepting of their decision if they decline. (Take note of this, everyone. Anyone and everyone can benefit from this wisdom. Give someone unsolicited advice, and watch their hackles come up. First ask them for permission to share. Understanding this makes life with other people so much easier!)

Giving feedback through e-mail is potentially problematic. The interpersonal connection is weak, and there is no real-time interaction. But I endeavor to communicate anyway, and tell the person that I have feedback for them. I ask if they want my input, and say that if they don't want the input, they can stop reading my message. I hope this works as intended. Noone has ever told me how they respond emotionally to receiving these messages.

Returning to the Perfectionist Fuss Budget story. A training program I am completing is currently implementing some excellent program enhancements. I received a piece of work to do and had several significant ways that I felt it could be improved to be more clear. Watch out! There's a Perfectionist on the rampage. Through e-mail, I gave my suggestions for the training lesson in question, then went about my day.

In addition to being a Perfectionist, I'm also obsessively concerned about offending people. This area is fraught with lack-of-perfection potential for me. When I start obsessing about things, they don't leave me alone until I communicate about them. So I wrote another e-mail, explaining my intention to help, and that I hope no offense was taken. Being Me can be so exhausting. Whew.

As I was writing the closing lines of the e-mail, . . . that's when the moniker Perfectionist Fuss Budget was born! (I make up here that when creative inspiration hits, one is prone to using vocabulary that never, ever see the light of day in normal conversation. Moniker?? Unbidden, rampage, hackles, and fraught? I tell you. All that vocabulary plus Perfectionist Fuss Budget in one day. I looked up 'unbidden' to make sure it's a word, so clearly it's not part of my normal lexicon. Wikipedia doesn't have it, the dictionary does. It's inspired creativity. And today's moniker and words all fit, just right. Inspiration drives me to write - and to finish. It's so NOT like my normal writing process.)

Ease & Grace
I like my new moniker. It absolutely suits me, while adding humor and lightness to my excessively serious way of being. I feel more loving and accepting of myself. Hard as I may be on other people, it's always Yours Truly who receives the brunt of my criticism.

Are You a Perfectionist Fuss Budget?
You're welcome to join my new mini-club. Is there a Facebook page for us already?
 
Love Yourself, My Friend!

The 'serious' posts are coming soon to a blog near you. One is actually already posted in incomplete form on the Food, Glorious Food blog. About a presentation about Wheat that I'm giving at Penticton Whole Foods Market on May 6.

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I love hearing from you and receiving your feedback. sandra@MiracleInspirations.com

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Sandra Lynn Lee
Licensed Massage Practitioner, Washington
Human Design Specialist
Certified Practitioner - The Emotion Code/The Body Code
Certified Healing Codes Practitioner
Miracle Inspirations
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sandra@MiracleInspirations.com

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What is a Fractal in Human Design?

Do you always attract the same sorts of people? It is natural for us to associate with people who have interests that we share. If you look at your sphere of influence and your acquaintances, you may see consistent themes that are not really associated with your work or other interests.

In Human Design, the term fractal refers to something different than it does in mathematics and science. If you attract people into your life who have certain energetic qualities, we say that this is part of your fractal. Fractals can be short term, long term, and life long. An example will illustrate this for you.

A Fractal in My Experience

A few days ago, I had a Human Design booth at a Health Fair. I did forty-three mini readings. (That's a lot of interaction and conversation for me in one day!) As I approached the end of the day, I realized that I had spoken with an unusually large number of people with the following two channels: 43/23 and 57/34. I'll share more about the channels in a bit. So that day, I had a fractal for people with the 43/23 and for people with the 57/34. I don't know if anyone I spoke with had both channels.

On an energetic, auric level this means that I was attracting people into my experience who have these energies defined in their Human Design charts.

There are factors that have a greater influence on attraction, but those are topics for another day. I just realized that I haven't yet written about two important attraction topics: electromagnetics and family dynamics. There's so much to share!

Something to Learn

The School of Relationships is where we do most of our learning and growing. Fractals bring people with energetic and behavioral qualities that trigger opportunities for understanding ourselves, relationships, and life. Are you surrounded by argumentative or difficult people? Are you a magnet for people who seem to talk non-stop? What about people who are always coming up with new business ideas? These could be fractals for you. Bringing you understanding and skills through those relationships.

As a bodywork practitioner, frequently my clients have relationship themes that run throughout their entire life experience. Over and over again, they attract people who push them to learn their big lessons. These are fractals.

Not all fractals feel like 'problems'. You can have fractals associated with activities you enjoy, educational or spiritual interests, work, social groups. The possibilities are infinite.

Short term fractals, like mine at the Health Fair, provide opportunities to develop increased understanding about particular aspects of life. Some fractals last for a while, then end. What fun!

Individual Circuitry in Human Design

Let's talk about the 43/23 and the 57/34. These are both channels in Individual Circuitry. People who have a lot of Individual Circuitry are designed to be different. If you feel like you don't really fit into the group, and that your thoughts and ideas are different, you may have a lot of Individual Circuitry. These channels are auditory, meaning a lot of how these people process information is through sound.

One of the names for the first channel is a bit dramatic, but quite accurately descriptive. If you have this channel defined in your chart, please don't take the name personally.

43/23 Channel of Freak to Genius. People with this channel defined tend to have ideas that are different. Their ideas have the potential to change the world. Thus Genius. Without new ideas and new ways to do things, society might stagnate. So we need the 43/23.

What happens when a person who has a completely new idea about how to do something just starts telling everyone else what to do? People resist, right? When the 43/23 just spouts out revolutionary ideas, they may occur to everyone else as a freak. Thus we call the 43/23 the Freak to Genius channel.

The 43/23 individual is particularly prone to just sharing their thoughts, frequently leading to less-than-satisfying responses from other people. All their ideas are eager to be expressed through the Defined Throat Center.

According to Human Design, everyone is designed to be asked for their wisdom. 

This is true for everyone, whichever of the five Human Design Types they are.

Life works most smoothly for all of us, 43/23 individuals included, when we wait to be asked for our thoughts - as ideas, advice, wisdom, input, suggestions, feedback, . . .

The 43/23 is an auditory channel. This individual may hear voices, hear their thoughts and ideas. They may be so focused on the thoughts in their heads that they don't hear when other people are talking to them. If you want the attention of someone who has the 43/23 defined, it can be helpful to gently touch them before speaking.

As with all energies in Human Design, these are likely to be themes for you if the 43/23 is defined in your chart. This means that you may feel like you ARE this way, or possibly that you definitely ARE NOT this way. You may experience these aspects in positive ways, or in not-so-positive ways.
 

57/34 Channel of Power. This channel is more complicated to describe on the chart. Start at the top left corner of the Sacral Center, the red square, go up, and take a right angle turn down to the Spleen Center, the brown triangle on the left side of the chart.

There is power in the ability of the 57/34 to perfect sound. This is the most auditory of all the channels. These people may work with sound, with music. They may be particularly sensitive to pleasant, or to harsh, annoying, or out-of-tune sounds. This is the channel for clairaudience, intuitive perception through sound, including voices.

As with all energies in Human Design, these are likely to be themes for you if the 57/34 is defined in your chart. This means that you may feel like you ARE this way, or possibly that you definitely ARE NOT this way. You may experience these aspects in positive ways, or in not-so-positive ways.


My Day of the 43/23 and 57/34 Fractal

What had me notice the prominence of these two channels while at the Health Fair? The 43/23 is somewhat common to see defined in charts. In readings, I talk with clients about this channel relatively frequently. The 57/34 is significantly more rare. When I see it in a chart, I pretty much always ask the person if they are sensitive to sound. By day's end, I realized that I had seen an unusually large number of 57/34's. Then I noted that there had also been a lot of 43/23's.

When I thought about it, I recognized that Individual Circuitry people who have these life themes are likely to be interested in health fairs. They are likely to be creative, perhaps artisitic, perhaps into healing arts. They could be either exhibitors or visitors at such events. And they might be attracted to Human Design, which is a bit outside the norm. So it made sense. I had a booth at the same health fair in February, and was not aware of the presence of this fractal that day. So it was a single day occurrence. I enjoyed exploring it. It was particularly interesting to hear about the varied ways that sound is important to people who have the 57/34.

Have Fun with Your Fractal!


Human Design Readings

For details, go to my website. For more information about Human Design, there are several postings. I designate them with HD at the end of the name, if it's not written out. Here is a link to the first posting.


Human Design charts are free!

Request Your Free Chart

Please send the following information to me at sandra@MiracleInspirations.com. I will send your chart by e-mail, along with a basic interpretation document.

Name, Birth date, Birth time (as accurately as you know it), Birth location, e-mail address

(Your information remains confidential, and I do not keep it on the Internet. Requesting a free chart places you under no obligation to have a reading.)

You may also request charts for other people. This can help you understand why people behave as they do, and your relationships with them.


Thank You's, Comments and Suggestions! There is a comments link at the end of the newsletter.

I love hearing from you and receiving your feedback. sandra@MiracleInspirations.com

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Have Fun with Your Fractal!

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Sandra Lynn Lee
Licensed Massage Practitioner, Washington
Human Design Specialist
Certified Practitioner - The Emotion Code/The Body Code
Certified Healing Codes Practitioner
Miracle Inspirations
www.MiracleInspirations.com
sandra@MiracleInspirations.com

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Your Unique Gifts - HD

Upon entering the room, he saw an old woman weaving at a loom. As he drew close, his eyes were caught by the cloth itself. The colors were infinitely varied, ranging from inky blacks to jewel blues and glittering golds. Textures were fine and silky, coarse and thick, sandpaper rough, and soft as a kitten's fur. Each pass of the weaver's shuttle laid in a thread, adding to the richness and depth of the tapestry.
     "Dear woman, what is it that you weave?"
     "Why, this is the fabric of life. As each living creature travels through its life, it is represented by a thread."
     Looking closely at the weaving, he could trace individual threads. He observed how they gathered together, creating the picture of the whole. Lifting his gaze from the loom, he saw bolts of fabric surrounding the loom, propped against the walls, and piled on shelves.

As a weaver myself, I will always remember this image from a novel by Orson Scott Card. When thinking about how to describe the unique and special contributions that each of us makes to the overall picture of life, I recalled this scene.

What quality, color and texture of thread are you contributing to the fabric of life?

What are You Here to Do?

That's THE question, isn't it? Each of us is on the planet to make a difference. We are designed with abilities, skills, and qualities that lead us to contribute in ways that are uniquely our own.

If you have participated in personal growth and success programs, you may have gone through exercises focused on identifying 1) your skills, 2) what you are an expert at, 3) the activities that cause you to lose track of time, and 4) what you love doing so much that you enjoy do it even when you are not receiving monetary compensation. You have probably sought to identify 1) your values, 2) your purpose, and 3) your mission statement.

In my opinion, these exercises theoretically point you in the direction of what you 'should' be doing to be successful. Personal growth programs then tell you to Just Go Do It.

Human Design & Your Gifts

Human Design takes a different approach. I do readings for many people who are seeking their perfect 'work'. Frequently, what we see in their Human Design charts coincides with what would show up on these people's numbered lists in the above-described exercises.

Human Design is not predictive. They tell you neither what you will do, nor what you 'should' do.

Human Design charts include all of the energies that are possible to experience during life as a human being.

The Centers, Gates, and Channels that are colored in your chart represent energies that you have, and/or themes that you are likely to experience in the course of your life. In Human Design, we say that these Centers, Gates, and Channels are Defined.

For more details about the energies within the Human Design Body Graph, I blogged several times about Human Design in November, 2012. There is also information about Human Design on my website,

Planets

What determines which energies are Defined in your Human Design chart? Each Defined Gate in your chart represents the position of a planet in the sky at the time of your birth. (Defined Gates are represented by colored 'lines' in the chart. It's more complex than this, but for today's discussion, this explanation will suffice.)

Before learning Human Design, astrology was the only system I had experienced that interprets planetary positions. My personal experience of astrology was that it had essentially no impact on my conscious life. Basically, I didn't believe interpretation of planetary positions could provide me with practically useful information.

Human Design has completely transformed my faith in planetary influences. As I do readings for family, friends, and clients, I am repeatedly surprised and amazed at how accurately Human Design describes people's lives and experiences of themselves. Planetary positions DO matter! It's been a stunning revelation for an astrology skeptic.

Your Time of Birth

I have found Human Design charts to be consistently accurate. Even when someone was born prematurely, by cesarean. Because one of my friends was born one minute after midnight, I figured that she purposely chose that time. Investigation indicated that had she been born an hour earlier, a significant energy in her chart would have been absent. She knew when she needed to be born.

I believe that each individual chooses their time of birth. 

Each soul has a plan for what they want or need to experience. They know which energies need to be represented by the planets in the sky. And the soul orchestrates the circumstances to ensure that birth occurs at that time.

Living By Design

Your soul KNOWS how you are here to contribute. It was part of your plan.

Human Design can't really tell you WHAT you will do. It can help you discover various aspects of what your expression of contribution is likely to look and feel like. A reading can describe a range of scenarios that could be possible.

The energies in your chart describe THEMES that you are likely to consistently experience throughout life. Some people think a lot, others tend to be creative. Some people have a lot of ideas, others like experimenting. Some people are nurturers, others are drawn to nature. Some people are leaders, others prefer solo pursuits.

All of the energies in your chart combine within your experiences. When you engage in activities that draw out your natural expression of these energies, you are living according to your design. 

You Attract Opportunities

On an energetic, auric level, you attract opportunities to fulfill your plan. Understanding your Human Design chart helps you recognize the opportunities when they appear. Your chart is like the blueprint for your life. It's up to you to follow the plan, . . . or not. You get to choose. But it's easier to follow the plan when you are aware that there IS a plan.

Human Design Readings

Would you like to understand the energies and themes in your Human Design chart? Would you like to explore the ways in which you express your gifts in the world?

Once you have had a basic chart reading, other types of readings can help you comprehend your design more deeply. Relationship readings help you understand the dynamics that you experience with other people. Of particular relevance to families are readings focusing on children's charts, and on family issues and dynamics.

Return readings help you recognize life themes that change over time. Solar returns describe annual themes. Then Saturn, Uranus, and Chiron readings show you the themes that come up as you age and mature. The time periods correlating with these planetary 'events' have the potential to be quite significant: late 20's, around 40, and around 50.

For more details about Human Design readings, go to my website.

Human Design charts are free!

Request Your Free Chart

Please send the following information to me at sandra@MiracleInspirations.com. I will send your chart by e-mail, along with a basic interpretation document.

Name, Birth date, Birth time (as accurately as you know it), Birth location, e-mail address

(Your information remains confidential, and I do not keep it on the Internet. Requesting a free chart places you under no obligation to have a reading.)

You may also request charts for other people. This can help you understand why people behave as they do, and your relationships with them.

Make a Difference With Your Unique Contribution!

Breathe

Sandra

Sandra Lynn Lee
Licensed Massage Practitioner, Washington
Human Design Specialist
Certified Practitioner - The Emotion Code/The Body Code
Certified Healing Codes Practitioner
Miracle Inspirations
www.MiracleInspirations.com
sandra@MiracleInspirations.com

Everything in this newsletter is the opinion of the author and is provided for informational and educational purposes only. When information is drawn from outside sources, both credit and access to the source are given, when available.
Copyright 2013 Miracle Inspirations. All rights reserved.