What comes to mind in response to those questions?
Frequently, people have difficulty unconditionally liking and loving themselves. They may like some aspects and have difficulty with others. Some people actively dislike and even hate themselves.
Personally, I think that working through this universal set of issues is a big part of why we are 'here'.
For Many Years I Hated Myself
Even now, after years of active healing, when I think of my childhood and teenage years, my first thoughts are that I hated myself and I was miserable. Memories associated with that come forward. Then I also remember the things that were, in truth, extremely positive. The reality of my early life was that it was comparatively easy; I had everything I needed, physically and non-physically, and there were certainly no significantly abusive or harmful situations. I was loved and cared for. Despite that, I felt like I was never good enough, and that everything I did or said was wrong.
I have healed in so many ways, and my relationship with myself and with the past has transformed. Negative feelings used to consume my conscious thoughts, but now they have decreased dramatically in both intensity and frequency. Now I am actually mostly happy, which is pretty remarkable.
I DO love myself. I DO like myself, though I don't always like the things that I have done or said. It has been valuable learning that distinction.
A recent significant contributor to my healing process is The Healing Codes. I describe part of my Healing Codes story in a recent blog.
Self Love - A Universal, Evolutionary Issue
I came away from a better-than-average 'normal' childhood, and I still hated myself. And I know people whose lives were vastly more traumatic than mine. Essentially everyone I know has their personal version of negative childhood memories, deep-down-inside fears, and negative opinions of self. Pretty universally, people have 'stuff' that gets in the way of their unconditionally liking and loving themselves.
I consider working through this universal set of issues as a big part of why we are 'here'. As each of us resolves our inner struggles, we contribute to the evolution of humanity.
Compatibility with Self
I have begun looking at this issue from the perspective of compatibility with myself. If I feel about another person the way that I have felt about myself sometimes, I don't want to be with them. And if I treat that person the way I have treated myself sometimes, they won't want to have anything to do with me. Basically, we are not compatible with each other. But when it comes to dealing with myself, well, it's just not so easy to walk out the door and never return.
Recently, I learned a process for increasing compatibility with myself using the EPFX biofeedback device. I have done this for myself every day for the past six days. I am impressed with the difference the Compatibility with Self protocol has made.
Each day, the session has proceeded a little differently, and 'inner Sandra,' the 'part' of myself I'm working with has been both a young child and a teen. I've integrated these parts of myself more completely into the whole of who I am. I feel more positive about myself, about my past, and about what is in front of me today.
I Unconditionally Love and Appreciate Myself
I tell myself that several times a day, and I feel it.
WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU TOLD YOURSELF THAT??
Interestingly enough, I have also been more productive in the past few days than I normally tend to be. Does it have anything to do with the Compatibility protocol? Probably. Because I'm feeling good about myself and what I'm doing.
Biofeedback, Compatibility, and Your Life
The Compatibility program is part of the biofeedback program on my EPFX device. Biofeedback helps people to relax, and to manage and reduce their stress. When you're unhappy with yourself, your feelings, or the things that you do, is that stressful? If you're at all like I am, it is tremendously stressful. If you're in a situation where you're having difficulty deciding what to do, because you don't know what you want, is that an issue of compatibility with self? Sounds like one to me. Is that stressful? You bet.
Would doing something that helps reduce your stress around this make a difference in your life?
Compatibility with Another Person, . . . and then some
The Compatibility program is actually intended for use in increasing the compatibility between people who are in partnership with each other. Marriage, business partners, parents and children, etc. Do you have stresses in those relationships? Focusing on compatibility can reduce the stress in the relationship between any two people, and even between a person and non-human beings or objects, like pets or houses. The potential applications are limitless.
Try Biofeedback for Stress Reduction
Numerous studies, and even the CDC have shown that 80-90+% of all health conditions are ultimately caused by stress. If you are interested in trying biofeedback to reduce the stress that you are experiencing in any area of life, let me know. I would be happy to work with you.
LOVE YOURSELF! LIKE YOURSELF!
All We Need is Love . . . All We Need is Love . . . All We Need is Love, Love . . . Love is All We Need!
Sandra
Certified Healing Codes Practitioner
Miracle Inspirations
www.MiracleInspirations.com
sandra@MiracleInspirations.com
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